Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Depression More Frequent in Women


This is to intimate my readers that another article of mine has been published in "Chef's Special (English)" Oct-2010. This article is about fact that women are more vulnerable to risk of depression than men.


Although article’s primarily focus is over females, identifying reasons of their depression backed with sound suggestions to overcome this negative feeling. But for men this will help them understand opposite gender (females) better, And to take good care of them.


Hope you will have enjoyable reading.






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Why Depression is More Common in Women than Men?

By: Prof. Ayesha Kashif

The history of depression is as old as the history of mankind. Moreover it is a well established fact that women are about two times more likely to suffer from depression as compared to men. This two-to-one ratio is common in almost all the different cultures, regions, religions and geographical areas. In fact, this gender difference in rates of depression is found in almost all the countries across the globe. A lot of factors have been identified and pinpointed to explain higher incidence of depression in women. Many factors have been implicated, including physiological, psychological, and social factors.

Depression is considered to be a serious condition of prolonged grief and sadness that can negatively affect you in every area of your life. This feeling can affect your personal, professional as well as social life.

If you feel prolonged sadness, feeling of guilty, tiredness, muscular tension and cramps, sleep disturbance or just generally feeling low, you may be suffering from major depression. But depression is curable and treatable, so no need to be depressed at your depression. The more you will know about it the more easily you can manage and overcome it.

The most common signs and symptoms of depression are as follows:

  • Feelings of sadness, grief or hopelessness
  • Feelings of anxiety and tension
  • Panic attacks
  • Inability to concentrate on work
  • Fatigue and low energy level
  • Episodes of crying
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once you used to enjoy
  • Guilt feeling and worthlessness
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Sleep disturbance (sleeping more or sleeping less)
  • Increase or decrease in appetite and weight changes
  • Mood swings and fearfulness
  • Persistent irritability or anger
  • Feeling out of control
  • Physical symptoms (bloating, breast tenderness, headaches, muscle pain)

Why women are at greater risk for Depression? Part of the answer lies in the fact that females have different biological make-up then men. Researchers have confirmed that hormones have an effect on the brain chemistry that controls one’s emotions and mood. A few of the physiological factors especially in women are discussed precisely.

Menstrual/Periods Problems – Changes in the level of hormones during the menstrual cycle can trigger some symptoms of depression such as muscular cramps, mood irritability, anger, fatigue, and emotional disturbances. For many women, these symptoms are mild. But for some women, symptoms are serious enough to disturb their normal day to day lives.

Pregnancy and Infertility - Pregnancy can cause a lot of hormonal fluctuations in women that can lead to depression, particularly in those women who are having genetic background or family history for depression. Such women are usually at high risk of depression during pregnancy. Moreover unwanted pregnancy, miscarriage and infertility can also contribute to cause depression in majority of the women.

Postpartum Depression Soon after the child birth majority of the women experience mild to moderate form of depression and anxiety commonly known as “Baby Blues” it contains crying episodes, fearfulness and panic attacks. However in few women it is quite severe that needs to be treated with anti-depressant medicines and rigorous counseling sessions.

Menopause: Menopause is considered being a period of time when a woman end having her regular monthly periods and encounter problems related to the lack of estrogen (female sex hormone) production. Studies shows that a lot of women experience not only physiological disturbances but also psychological and emotional disturbances during and after the period of menopause. Depression is one of the most common psychological problems confronted by majority of the women.

Common Ways of treating Depression in Women:

The good thing about depression is; that it is 100 percent curable if taken proper treatment on time. The commonly used methods are psychotherapy and the use of anti-depressant medicines; depending upon the nature and severity of depression. Sometimes having a counseling session with a psychologist is as effective as any rigorous drug therapy, as a supportive counselor can help you to identify the factors that can contribute to your depression and can also guide you to cope up with those depression inducing factors. In this way you can overcome your pessimistic thoughts and unrealistic fears. In some instance you might have to change your lifestyle if it is constantly causing stress that is ultimately resulting in depression.

Postpartum depression or depression after the child birth should be handled carefully. If a woman is breastfeeding the baby, the decision to take an antidepressant medicine must be taken in consultation with the doctor.

Depression linked with reproductive cycle:

Hormonal imbalance associated to the reproductive cycle can have a great influence on woman’s emotions and mood. In light of this possibility, it is important that you should consult your doctor so that he/she must investigate that weather your depression is linked with your reproductive cycle or it has some environmental cause. It is also important not to over look mood disturbances associated with the side effects of using birth control pills and hormonal imbalance therapy.

A few and little changes in your lifestyle can help you to overcome depression:

Daily Exercise: Simple but regular aerobic exercise, morning walk and yoga can help manage the symptoms of depression especially the one’s related with pre-menstrual symptoms of depression.

Minor Changes in Your Diet Plan: Try to eat more fruits and vegetables in your diet. Prefer Carbohydrates in your food then fats, moreover try to avoid excess salt and caffeine, oily and fatty food is also not recommended. Taking a good multivitamin tablet regularly will definitely benefit you.

Share your Feelings: Sharing your feelings with any of your sincere friend, or family member will definitely help you to overcome your depression, as in this way you will not only get good suggestions from them; but it is also a great way of making catharsis.



Thursday, August 26, 2010

Is it more important to love or to be loved?

This Article of mine was published in World Time Magazine August 2010; about very interesting subject “Is it more important to love or to be loved?” I hope you to have enjoyable reading; Please do provide me with your feedback afterwards.

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Is It More Important “To Love” or “To be Loved”?

By: Prof. Ayesha Kashif

It has been commonly said that if one needs to live a happy life; he should marry the person who loves him, instead of the one whom he loves. If we believe in argument above; long story gets short and chapter seems to be getting closed. Though this rule of thumb may not work always; and one can only wish if enigma of “love” would be this simpler. This rabbit hole goes much deeper than it seems apparently. In fact both of the dimensions of love are interlinked and interdependent on each other. In order to enjoy the status of “Being Loved” it is very much important that one must know “what love is?” and this can only be known when a person himself / herself falls in love and must experience how it actually feels.

What is Love?

In case it is asked from you what is Love? You may find yourself puzzled; though majority of the dictionaries explains its meaning as “An intense feeling of deep affection”, “A great interest and pleasure in something”. Often it is observed that most hyped denomination of love is “Romantic Love” and due to lot of influence thrown by media, it has become most common perception about love among majority of us. But love just does not mean hero / heroines of a movie holding hands heading towards beach at sunset; it is somewhat more complex than this.

In order to understand love in depth; we first need to know the important types of love. For this we can further divide love with help of three Greek words. Regardless of their spiritual and mythological background; this most simplified classification seems best for understanding “Love”

These three Categories of Love are as follows:

- Eros (Romantic Love)

- Philia (Friendly Love)

- Agape (Pure Love)

Eros (Romantic Love)

As the word (Eros) represents itself; this is “Erotic Love”. Its initial developmental stage is considered to be fastest amongst all; it gets triggered due to physical or alluring appeal, self interests and other external variables. When people usually make such statements like “I have fallen in love” or “I am experiencing love at first sight”, it is more likely that they are experiencing Eros (Romantic Love).Though these statements soon seem to evaporate as soon as harsh words are exchanged between both parties and they experience conflict between their self interests. Such conflicts can lead to frustration resulting in decline of Eros (Romantic Love). This type of love is often experienced in Man-Woman relation; where both look forward to live as couple. This type of love is fastest to grow; and fastest to shed away as well.

Eros (Romantic Love) is more Self-Centered; but it is great for initial relationship development. This type of love does not contain even slightest flavor of logic. It just grows with flow of sentimental emotions; and same is the reason of its decline; that it is more concerned with “Self”. Having a very high reliance over external variables i.e. relationship status, environment, time, and physical appeal; the moment any of these key supporting element moves away; lovingly feelings also change their route.

Philia (Friendly Love)

Philia (Friendly Love) has its “Reliability” somewhat higher than Eros (Romantic Love), as this relies more over logic; both parties have something in common, especially with respect to their interests.

This type of love is often experienced between friends, best-friends, fellowship, colleagues, or may be siblings. In this category one just enjoys the company of another person. As the interests of both parties match so one feels more comfort and ease in the companionship of the loved one. As it’s often well said that basis of every relationship should be based on healthy friendship; as only then long-term understanding and interest in one another could be maintained.

Philia (Friendly Love); yet again is not always too reliable. As it changes with change in circumstances. Moreover this relationship is somewhat based over “give & take” factor. Due to which it is more likely that this love might not stay FOREVER! Primarily “Philia” is friendship, but if you just look back in your life you will realize that there were so many people in your past to whom you called “Friends” and now you don’t even know there where-about. You might have lost contact with them due to change in common goals and your feelings slowly have been blurred with dust of time. In short when your mutual interests are no more “Mutual” Philia (Friendly Love) begins to deplete.

Agape: (Pure Love) “Ishq” in Urdu language

Agape (Pure Love) may not involve any logic apparently; but if observed carefully this indeed possesses highest intensity of logic. This type of love is often tagged as “Un-Conditional Love”. And without a doubt Agape (Pure Love) is considered to be most reliable love amongst all the categories.

This type of love is often experienced in God-Human, Mother-Child and in Nationalism relations, where one eliminates his/her ego, self-esteem, and begins to love selflessly, no matter how one is treated by the loved one, the essence of love keep flowing. This is why it is often quoted as “Purest form of Love”. It may take longer time to develop among two human beings; but once developed it is likely to take longest time to shed away. It may even stay FOREVER.

Expectations:

Our expectations towards certain people play very important role in the quality of life that we spend. Love is very qualitative and can hardly be quantified. The love that you experience is actually your own perception about it. Your perception about love might be absolutely different from another person having almost the same circumstances as yours. So this is emphasized that in order to experience more love, keep your expectations lower. Only then you can experience self-contentment and inner satisfaction. This leads to conclusion that one needs to keep increasing his love for others and keep reducing his expectation in order to experience highest joy of love.

Gate Way to True Happiness and Self Contentment:

If someone is truly loved; then it needs to stay forever.If intensity of love reduces due to change in physical appearance, financial status or other external variables; then it cannot be called as true love.

True love comes with “priceless” price. For which; get ready to wash away all egos, promise yourself to keep reducing your expectations from the loved one and to keep increasing intensity of love; this will not only lead to greatest boost in relation but will also leads to self-contentment and lifelong happiness.

Choose “to be loved” for self comfort and other external benefits & loose your self-contentment. For inner satisfaction and greater stability of relationship it is more important “to love” than “to be loved”; start loving more than other person does, keep increasing your love intensity, stop expecting. You will have great love filled life.

“Being Loved” is a blessing that few may have; but “Joy of Loving” is endorsement that even fewer can imagine.”

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Independence Day

Independence Day (14th August 1947):

Today, at Independence Day attempt has been made to write about Nationalism, and its importance with provided reason of existence, plus suggestions to escalate at our own have also been provided. Hope to have enjoyable reading.

 

Since long back in history humans have known to be living in societies, communes, or any form for living together, so it be villages, towns or name it anything; Governed with multiple styles and forms. Primarily living together provides benefit of perceived security and concept of synergy. Till date these two major components prevail at national scale too. Not only were these two major reasons of living together; another element which keeps humans bounded with one another, especially in short run is “We and the Enemy” approach.

 

We & the Enemy:

This means that humans tend to make groups, group members are “we” and rest fall as enemy; till they have joint enemy they are likely to stay together; once that enemy has been taken over they tend to make more groups and began to develop conflicts over further minor self interests. Assumed famous example about this can be proven with simple thinking, that this world can easily be joined together when they can see a joint enemy; clear examples are world wars. Two major groups agreed to join; as they could see another stronger enemy. In case of joining whole world together we may take example of any aliens or any other external force threatening the globe; and whole world will join together.

 

Working together and jointly will definitely provide fruits of mutual security and synergy. This shows that in order to get better living standards it is important to have humans working mutually. Well to attain this, simplest way seems to be “we & the enemy” approach, knowingly or not knowingly, politicians all across the globe try to use this philosophy to get higher vote bank. Even in case of cold war or any other mass scale grouping over school of thought, groups become stronger if they perceive other party as their enemy/opponent. So be grounds of intellect or war.

Nationalism:

With enough of discussion over “We and the Enemy” it is no difficult to understand that truth behind philosophy of Nationalism too is same approach. Either it is negative or positive; this will be elaborated further; for now let us define Nationalism:

 

“Mass scale love filled devoted interest for one’s nation, culture, independence or a desire to be independent nation directing to school of thought that nation is above all and needs to work independently than collaboratively with rest of world is known as nationalism.”

 

Initially humans have been living and working in small communities and religious groups, hence before concept of nations itself; nationalism did exist. In those times, it was about loyalty towards one school of thought, locality, or religious group. Localities were taken over by religious regimes, and latter these religious or ethnic based groups were further taken over by concept of nations.

 

Nationalism has been considered as major factor contributing to lots of wars, including world wars as said above. Because with concept of Nationalism one forgets to understand and believe in ideas of others, once nationalistic feelings attain hype it attain enough power to do wonders; to utilize this we have seen example of “Mother Russia” where whole nation were working just for the sake of Nationalism, believing that everything belongs to state/holy mother. Capitalist State or Socialist, Importance of Nationalism cannot be ignored as it bounds nation overall (all members) towards one goal. Once awaken fully; it helps eliminating negativities of crime, corruption, betrayal and others alike. Failure to stop this powerful flow of Nationalism, if triggered at grounds of “We & the Enemy”, may trigger all out war, revolt or civil war. Hence its power needs to be well understood and managed accordingly.

Why Nations?

In case Nations or societies were established just with reason of attaining security and synergy; had this been only reason, whole world would have joined USA, making one nation of whole world. This primarily is due to different school of thoughts, living styles, cultures and religions for which different Nations urge to exist. So is the case with movements willing to attain liberation from existence Nations. This also nullify American stance of attacking any nation for good, because they too are developed and will help developing other nations; had it been the case. All nations would initiate movement to get aligned.

 

Humans love freedom; so is the case with any other living being; but freedom does not just mean being out of bounds. For living in society with one another there needs to be some bounds; otherwise it will all be law of jungle. Hence it can be concluded that it is about being bounded with own wishes at styles, nullifying further that Democracy is holy system for complete world. Every Nation has its own wishes to fill; and they may govern their operations as per their wishes. This elaborates that reason Nations exists is primarily due to mass scale wish of governing their lives according to common believe, plus to defend that believe system they need mutual strength and synergy to work and live happily. Regardless which economic and governance system they decide to live with. So they can live happily and with peace of mind.

 

This leads to further understanding that Nations utmost reason of existence is happiness, comfort, peace of mind and satisfaction of its people. More satisfaction than they would have attained being part of any other nation or system.

Importance of Nationalism:

While reading about “we & the enemy” approach, one might have felt that rationally Nationalism is ironically foolish to believed in. As such system seems to be quite wild and ignorant. Unfortunately this is how the world has been, and the modern world is. Probably this is how it is likely to be in future. Because it is human nature to exert “need for power” over others often by snubbing; which at mass scale get executed by snubbing other's believe system/economic system or governance system.

 

Hence there will always be conflicts and one Nation will desire to influence over other. To safeguard mass level mutual interest, there has to be Nation with believe that their Nation is first priority; so collaborative effort will lead to higher productivity. Plus in race of competition among different states, provided it is healthy (No Wars) world overall is likely to progress more. Other than that, Humans can hardly be trusted by one and another; so they need security from one another. For this devotion towards Nation and Nationalism can help residents to be bounded.

 

To live in this world; Nationalism is important for one’s self satisfaction and progress of nations. This is true especially for underdeveloped and developing nations needing to progress at faster pace. It means that Nationalism needs to be glorified; as whole Nation needs to be determined towards one goal. For mass Scale Management; it is very important to glorify Nationalism and make everyone work in favor of Nation.

Ways of Enhancing Nationalism:

Affiliation with renowned and successful personalities must be aligned with Nationalism, making it believed, that love for their Nation was primary reason of their work. So should be motivation of complete nation; motivating masses for National good, that will bring good to overall society for sure.

At individual level; what can we do to enhance Nationalism?

-          Independence Day:

o   Celebrate Independence day with full zeal and zest, assuring not to hurt others; but to raise flag, buy cake. In case of being religious; thank God for being lucky and promise God that you will bring good to society, as only than thanking for heavenly blessing can be justified.

-          Celebrations

o   During Other official and personal celebration, element of Nationalism needs to be brought it, and snub those with confidence who try to make fun. Deliver positive speeches about subject that no matter with which style we think; our Nation is our identity and we need to uplift it. Even though it will take time; but it will be elevated.

-          Respect for Flag

o   Flag is major representation of Nation; respect for flag needs to be of very high level. Even at home, it needs to be taught to children that National Flag must never be torn away, must never be placed at floor. Rather it needs to have religious respect. Here is no harm in saluting Flag in public gathering, this visible show of love will enhance your own confidence, and it will also encourage others to present their love for nation.

-          Respect for Nation

o   Just as we need to pay respect to flag, so should be respect for nation as whole. Snub who pass derogatory remarks or comments about Nation; request them to pass comments over policies, government, and any personality. But not over nation; as everyone is part of a nation. And respect for nation needs to stay intact. Strong actions should be taken, wherever slightest of derogatory remarks get passed at media. Currently in Pakistan, Media in fierce competition has long forgotten nationalism in its true spirit; indirectly they try to show that Pakistan is of no good. This leads to overall depression and reduction in Nationalism, such incidents needs not to be tolerated at all. Strong yet responsible protest needs to be registered against such behavior of media. This can be done through networking, blogging, word of mouth and others. At least we need to think that it is bad and communicate to others.

For elevating standard of our Nation, Nationalism needs to be originated with enhanced spirit. By taking these actions at our own; Nationalism will move in positive direction, other than our efforts, government needs to show clear direction and goals of a nation. Doing this can solve a lot of problems, plus overall nation gets a direction to move, further helping Nationalism to rise.

 

Happy Independence day to All, and to my Sweet Pakistan, I love and respect Pakistan. I am lucky and proud to be a Pakistani. All problems aside, I desire all of my readers to spread this message; “We are lucky and we are proud to be Pakistani”

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father’s Day:

At this special occasion when I have been missing my special Abu (Dad); I know even more how much I love him; after I have missed him. I know how much I loved him; and I can well understand it requires a lot of effort to be called by any respected and loved salutation being father.

In this article discussion will comprise over:

· Why Father’s day is celebrated & History

· Importance of Father in Family

· Son-Father Relation

· Daughter-Father Relationship

· Importance of Father’s Day

History of Father’s Day

it is presumed that Idea for "Father's Day" is primarily given by woman with name of "Sonora Smart Dodd"; she got this idea while she was listening to Mother's Day Sermon; Spokane, Washington, USA. (Year 1909)

http://www.morning-glow.com/holidays/father/father.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father's_Day

Importance of Father in Family:

Fathers are essentially important in family; commonly known as bread winner. Despite last few decades; all across globe Fathers were considered to be one who could challenge society, safe-guard their families and be lead bread winner. They provide security and keep families bounded by giving common objective to all and setting rules/perceived rules for whole family. In majority of societies they are considered as “Head of Family”. For children of both genders it is very important to have father; or at least fatherly figure.

Son-Father Relationship:

Son Father Relationship is very important; especially till Son attains teen age. Reason can be that Son is likely to carry name of his father; shares hobbies and seems to have same league. This special bond stays there. By time Son attains maturity, majority of these bonds get to break. Few believe that its primary reason is that they share love of same woman (Mother/Wife). Even though; both members may not have slightest of this feel in their conscious mind; but this in longer run can become cause of conflict.

Other than this; male gender often attempts to have “Head of Family” status in family; and fathers are often more particular in raising Sons as they have to carry their name. Due to this in adult hood; father find their sons to be doing more wrong things than daughters. And this critical observation, strict interventions often result in stressed relations at latter stage.

Daughter-Father Relationship (Daddy’s Little Girl):

http://www.philstar.com/Article.aspx?articleid=530667

http://www.harpercollins.com/books/Daddys-Little-Girl-Gregory-E-Lang/?isbn=9780061451492

This is known to be one of most sweet and lovely-dovey relationship; simply flip of “Mama’s Boy” or “Mommy’s Little boy”; these terms are famous due to concept that opposite gender children get tied with parents more affectionately and for longer time. And there are more cases of strongly tied up relationship of opposite gender children than of same.

No doubt; that mother is known to be most loving creature on planet. At times, for girls father may be loving their daughters more than Mothers do. As majority of mothers tend to lover their Son more than daughters. And Fathers tend to love daughters more. Contrary to this; it has also been observed that during or before pregnancy; Males desire to have Son, where Female partner wishes to have girl.

At latter stage; strong Daddy’s seem to be willing to do relatively anything for their daughters. Keeping them feel strongly protected even after, daughters become teens or adults. Hence daughters are found to love their Dad more than Son do.

Importance of Father’s Day:

Just like any celebration; this celebration beers its sheer importance. Especially for children who love their father to establish strong bond with their father. This ceremony enhances love among family members. Plus it makes easier for children to express their gratitude and love to parents; who otherwise may fail to express positive feelings for a very long interval. So at least once in a year; fathers get appreciated for their price-less parenting support towards family.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Management of Stress and Anxiety











Stress Management Techniques

Few days back one of my colleague visited my blog and requested me to share something through which we can manage our stressful lives.


It is indeed one of the most common problems of today’s world that we are leading a very hectic and tiring life. Even a small child has got his own stresses in his life; a housewife has to cope with so many frenetic things to complete the household chores. A student’s life also has multiple reasons through which they undergo stress throughout their lives. Other then all: overall economic pressure or economic down turn leads to increased level of stress for society.

Stressful life is result of one cycle; just like a snowball effect, but here must be a starting point; for simplifying that, provided are most common incidences that trigger’s cycle of stress:

Stress Inducing Factors

Death of a loved one
• Marital problems
• Major personal injury or prolonged illness
• Academic failure
• Unable to cope with educational burden
• Pregnancy
• Increased work load
• Change in living conditions
• Sleeplessness
• Divorce/ Broken Relationship
• Serious arguments with girlfriend or boyfriend
• Change in eating habits
• Financial issues
• People’s undue expectations from you
• Unstable political or economic condition of the country

Now a days when people find themselves into a stressful situation they start using some of the very unhealthy ways of coping with it. Some of the most common negative ways of coping with stress are as follows:


Unhealthy ways of Coping with Stress

Smoking
• Using anti anxiety pills frequently
• Sleeping for very long durations
• Showing aggression; physical or verbal to those people who are junior to you in age and rank
• Simply quitting from the situation that is causing anxiety and stress
• Using alcohol
• Withdrawing from the friends and start avoiding any public gathering


These techniques may help you overcome your stress, but it is absolutely not a permanent and healthy solution of your problem. We can always solve our anxieties, fears, apprehensions and stresses by adapting some healthy life style.

Share Your Feelings: First of all it is always good to share your feeling with any of your close friend, sibling or spouse (Whom so ever you think is the most reliable person in your life). It will help you out in knowing that you are not the only one going through all this situation, rather it is a matter of fact that majority of the people now a days are going through major or minor kind of anxieties and stresses in their lives. Moreover your friend might suggest you any good way to overcome the situation. Plus another benefit of sharing your problem with a reliable person is that it will always makes you feel relaxed, instead of cooking everything in your mind alone.

Effective Time Management: Management of your time effectively can also make you avoid a lot of problems that can lead to stress and anxiety. Try to finish your work at least one day before the deadline. It can avoid a lot of unseen hazards that might originate at the eleventh hour. If you have to reach at an urgent meeting or catch a flight, try to calculate the driving time in such a manner that you can reach at least 30 minutes before time. However you can always utilize you time positively if you reach early by preparation for the meeting or any other work.

Be Smart to Say NO: In our professional lives sometimes we are bombarded with loads and loads of work, and in certain situations some of our “smart” colleagues have got a quality of distributing their work to others by pleading, requesting, appealing, demanding or simply praising others. So it is your duty to be even more “smarter” then them. You must know the intelligent way of saying “NO” to any added responsibility that is thrown to you. One can always say NO in a polite manner without hurting the feeling of other people. This technique will really help you in avoiding stress that could cause if you do not have the guts to refuse another. For example; if you are being told to make a presentation for your colleague; you may excuse by elaborating your existing tasks, and let them have information required from you. It is better to provide them half; or even less time instead of making full presentation.

Avoid Anxiety Provoking Situations: Try to avoid those situations and those people who can aggravate your stress. For example if traffic jams or watching “breaking news” on the television can trigger your anxiety, try to avoid these situations by adapting even a longer route that is less rushy, so your stress could not be triggered. But in certain situations you cannot avoid the people very easily who can provoke your stress i.e. your boss or may be your spouse :) but you can always avoid discussing such issues with them that can lead to an argument resulting in high level of stress.

Don’t Trigger Stress Provoking Topics: If there are certain “Hot Topics” that trigger your stress, like some people are too sensitive about religion, politics, health issues or family politics, try to avoid jumping into such conversations, because usually such conversations does not end up with any conclusion but a headache leading to anger and frustration.

Make a List of Things-To-Do: Try to make up a “Things to do list” it will help you out in prioritizing your work and will lead to better management of your work.

Be Optimistic: “Be Positive” most of our anxieties are self originated, because we always look at the darker side of the picture. So instead of looking your problems in a pessimistic manner try to be optimistic in your thoughts. Try to look at those angles of the problem that are beneficial for you. For example if you are loaded with work by your boss, look at it from this perspective that this opportunity will make you learn new things because whatever we do in our lives we always learn something new, even from the routine things, that we have been doing from ages.

Have Faith on God: There are certain situations in our lives that cannot be controlled by us, so instead of taking tension or stress for those issues that are uncontrollable, try to be cool and calm and leave rest to God and your destiny. Have faith on God that whatever will be done by Him it will be the best alternative for you.

Be forgiving: We all are not living in a perfect world extinct from all the negativities and imperfections. So be generous in forgiving people. It will help you out in perceiving the world in a brighter manner; moreover it will not only enhance your self image and self esteem,but public image as well.

Get yourself involved in healthy physical as well as mental activities: It is very important to get yourself involved in healthy physical exercises i.e. going for a walk, do some sort of workout, write your feelings in a diary to have self catharsis, play with children, get a massage, listen to your favorite music do exercise and the best of all is to watch some good comedy movie.

Take out time for “Relaxation”: The best relaxation technique is to do some breathing exercises. Sit down in a relaxed posture at a comfortable place. Try to take deep breaths. Inhale oxygen, keep it in for some time and then exhale it. It will definitely make you relaxed if you follow it as a routine.

In the end I would like to mention one of my favorite quotations by Dr. Robert Schuler, that “Tough Times Never Lasts But Tough People Do” so start believing in yourself and your capabilities, be strong during any of the stressful situations and “give a tough time, to the tough time”

I am sure if you follow some of the above mentioned techniques, it will definitely help you out in over coming your anxieties and stresses and will help you in leading a healthy and happy life.

By now I believe you must already be feeling some what relaxed :)

Although here is no end of learning; if you have few more suggestions to be added in the article; please write down so we can add good to humanity.



Have a Stress Free Life

Ayesha Kashif……………….